“For his anger lasts only a moment,
but his favor lasts a lifetime;
weeping may stay for the night,
but rejoicing comes in the morning.” – Psalm 30:5
Mamas, mornings are rough. Can I get an ‘Amen’? Kids tend to wake up early especially on the days they don’t have to. At times, you never get to drink a single cup of coffee, and definitely not a hot cup. You go through the morning getting on to your kids, feeling frustrating, easily agitated, and doing everything you can to not lose it. You slept half of the night in your baby’s crib (and praise the Lord that you still fit). One child has been struggling with night terrors, the other has been coughing for what seems like the whole winter. Sleep… what’s that? Your husband sleeps like an angel, but you try to remind yourself that he works hard too. You wake up with a foot in your face almost every morning because somehow your toddler always migrates to your bed. On the nights when you think you’re going to sleep like a baby, you frantically wake up and remember that your Kindergartner has nothing to wear for 50’s day tomorrow and of course, you’re out of milk. And if all of that is not enough, the baby in your growing belly kicks as soon as you get back in bed, and now you have to pee AGAIN!
All you’re asking for is one good night’s sleep. Just one…. ONE! That’s it and you’ll get it. I promise you that. Your night of blissful sleeping is coming, but it’s probably not going to be tomorrow, and definitely not in 10 – 15 years when you have teenage children that are driving and making mediocre decisions at best. There are a lot more sleepless nights ahead. Tonight may include sleeping in the recliner with your sick baby, changing sheets after your toddler wets the bed, comforting your elementary child awoken by a nightmare, crying over your middle schooler that was verbally attacked at school, listening for your teenager to come in so you can finally try to rest.. it may not look like an ideal night’s rest, but let me tell you something…
This will pass, and by golly, you will miss it. It’s not going to last forever. In fact, it’s going to happen in the blink of an eye. Your kids are going to grow up, have kids of their own, go through the same struggles, and occasionally, call you in the middle of the night because they STILL need their mama. I see you, mama. I know you do a lot. I know you feel like you can’t do much more without breaking. I know you’re exhausted. I know you’re trying your hardest to keep it all together. BUT, the one thing you can do on top of all of the other things you do is exude JOY.
Listen. Listen. Listen. You know how they say that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. I believe it’s the same with our attitudes. Our attitude sets the tone for the rest of our day AND our kids day AND probably sometimes our husband’s day (whether they admit or not). Just like breakfast promotes weight maintenance, joy in the morning promotes attitude maintenance. Good breakfast is also linked to good health and better memory. I’m telling you now, joy in the morning can be linked to a good day and better memories for those precious kiddos of yours.
I’ll leave you with this…1. Get up before your kids (even if it’s only 10 mins) and do something you enjoy; read a book, put on worship music, do a devotion, enjoy yoga in a clean living room, drink at least 1 HOT cup of coffee, take an uninterrupted shower, turn on your favorite TV show before Paw Patrol, Mickey Mouse, or Fancy Nancy is on repeat. Whatever it takes to put a smile on your face.2. Remind yourself that your kids are just that….KIDS. They don’t like keeping you up all night. They don’t like having night terrors, accidents, sickness, etc. 3. Give yourself positive affirmations. Tell yourself, “You are needed. You are loved. You are happy. You are calm. You are kind. You are enough.” It’s not always easy, but man, it’s a sweet feeling sometimes when I remember how cherished I am even when I’m not always thanked. 4. CHOOSE JOY! Make the choice. Don’t send your kids of to school, daycare, etc on a sour note. Hug them. Kiss them. Answer them kindly. Stick a note in their lunchbox. Read the same book for the 500th time this week with the same expressions you’ve read it with the last 499 times.
Mama of the Gilmartin Girls (kid on my back, hand in my shirt, smile on my face)